I’ve turned 40 few weeks ago. One of my mentors asked me what is my BEST SKILL that I’ve learned in my life so far.
“The Ability to Remain Silent” – I replied
I can sit in a meeting for few hours without saying a word. I can take the international flight of 30 hours door to door without saying a word and I can buy the whole month’s grocery without saying a word and I can spend days doing just that.
I’ve realize that “spoken words” are my worst enemy. My brain can always come up with questions, critique, alternative views and disagreements, not because I know better but because “I like to believe” I am better.
To improve myself, to understand the conversation better, to focus and not to be distracted by my own thoughts, and to gain the benefits of knowledge, the company of scholars, and to challenge my own ego, I seriously cut down the number of words I will speak in a day.
Anything that can be done without speaking is the “best way to go”, if a sentence can do the job, I would never use a speech, if a word is enough I wouldn’t use a sentence, if a tear or facial expression can convey what I want, I wouldn’t use my tongue to re-iterate it.
The amount of wisdom that I collect by remain silent is incomprehensible for the people who like to speak.
I am not better, I will not be better, I am not done, I will never be done, but doing so will keep me humble enough to understand this reality.